Beholder’s eye
by Silvia Daumichen, Fairbanks
Sep 03, 2010 | 1429 views | 19 19 comments | 4 4 recommendations | email to a friend | print
Letter to the Editor

Sept. 3, 2010

To the editor:

Who, I wonder, would like to eat under a blanket in the dark, in secrecy as if there was something wrong with eating or themselves?

Who, I wonder, would like to eat on a schedule rather than when hungry? Who would like to be told to wait if the need for comfort and connection arises?

If you nurse your baby on cue, there is no schedule, you don’t need a pacifier and you don’t let your baby cry until you have enough privacy to nurse. What would we do that for? For people who are offended at the sight of some skin covering milk ducts?

Personally, I find a shoulder as sexy as a breast.

It makes me wonder what is going on in those people’s minds that are so offended by a mother nursing publicly, uncovered.

Where I am from — Germany — women lay around topless, in city parks. Nobody thinks a thing of it or just looks the other way. I don’t know how the human body could be offensive in any way. It’s in the eye of the beholder.
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themomlady
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September 11, 2010
Breastfeeding is normal--yes. A lot of us did it--yes. The idea of breastfeeding in public is nothing new, but I would think that just out of a mere sense of modesty a woman would want to cover herself in public. Frankly, I don't know many people who would want to see MY triple D's hanging out in public, and I'm not sure that my husband would appreciate other people looking at them!!
candicejh
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September 05, 2010
you know, michael jordan was breastfed for the first three years of his life. i wonder if his mother gave in to the "uncomfortableness" (is there such a word) of the ppl around her and just stuck a bottle in his mouth....if he would be the athlete he is?

i have five kids and breasfed 3 of them. the 2 i didn't, well, they're always the first ones to get sick and the last to feel better.

just sayin.
oldowl
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September 05, 2010
I think this whole subject has gotten very boring and over discussed.
LadyNYC
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September 05, 2010
I guess I'm also hung up on this issue. Public breastfeeding makes me really uncomfortable. When I grew up, it was something moms did in private.

Years ago, I had a co-worker who breast fed at staff meetings. No one else seemed uncomfortable, and I acted like I wasn't. But it totally unnerved me.

I guess I'm too old-fashioned.
Dove
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September 05, 2010
I don't see people becoming offended, when a moose calf is nursing milk from mother. Do people grow uncomfortable watching puppies nurse? Boobs have been around as a functioning organ for survival a lot longer than Playboy.

Grow up people.

Buick-Mackane
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September 05, 2010
'...the true issues of right and wrong...'. And what may those be and to whom ?

The basic difference in thought to which man should be, should get the ball rolling on that matter. Adario and De Lahontan had just that discussion in the 1600s concerning the grey matter with their gray matter.
anyoneoutthere
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September 04, 2010
This just makes me feel silly. I fully support the feeding of babies. I find myself pleasantly surprised when public breastfeeding occurs within my sight. I do avert my eyes, though I was an avid watcher of my wife and our children. It was an activity I kept abreast of every chance I got. I am disintegrating into cackles now. Will every lac tater please run amok so we can become as relaxed and progressive as German society.

Hail polarmark, great comment.
mwmcintyre
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September 04, 2010
Polarmark, that is very self-aware and an excellent comment. Not enough people are able to distinguish between cultural mores and true issues of right and wrong.
twain
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September 04, 2010
Being a diabetic I also eat on schedule. I will have to try that under the blanket . I guess were both weird.
Buick-Mackane
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September 04, 2010
So open public breastfeeding IS a moral issue ?
longhornak
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September 04, 2010
I don't find breast-feeding offensive, but I do find a lot of the magazines that show off skin offensive. I guess that makes me ... darn it, can't remember the term. It must be Saturday.

And I have no issue with eating under a blanket. I also eat on a schedule. However, I am weird. :-)
twain
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September 04, 2010
I dont disagree with polarmark. He readly admits the uncomfortablr feeling is his problem. Yes the morals of the country has changed and in many cases for the better.
Doug_in_Salcha
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September 04, 2010
twain,

I guess it should come as no surprise to you that I agree with 'Polarmark' far more often than I agree with you? This is one of those occasions...
polarmark
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September 04, 2010
in germany women sunbath topless in public parks. in france children drink wine with their dinner. these are example of cultural choices that are fine. no one is getting hurt with these cultural values. i don't believe the german men are shocked into sexual dysfunction. french rate of alcoholism is one of the lowest in the western world. we aren't french or german. breast feeding is completely natural. but then so is copulation by adult males and females, but we don't do that in public. breast feeding in public in america borders on the taboo. when i was a child such a thing was totally unthinkable. we have loosened up on that since then. if i'm on a city bus and a woman begins breast feeding her baby i am not offended. i do feel rather uneasy. i realize the problem is with me and not the mom or baby so i don't make a fuss. i just avert my eyes and try not to notice. i do wish she'd wait until she is in a more private place. but then that sure does beat having a screaming baby on the bus that i have to listen until they or i get off the bus.
twain
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September 04, 2010
Doug... yes, I agree with the LTE. I just dont see a baby nursung its mother as any form of indignity. Im sure there will be all kinds of situations brought forward that is natural that none of us would want to see done openly, but a baby nursing isnt one of them.
june69
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September 04, 2010
right, people should be able to do something ina public place as long as it is natural, right. Its only the removal of unused fluids via the urethra, everyone does it, its no big deal right?
Doug_in_Salcha
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September 04, 2010
twain, Of course you do (agree with her, that is)...
twain
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September 04, 2010
I agree completely.
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